October, 2009

About cheating

Cheating is defined as an act of lying, deception and so on. It is creating an unfair advantage in one’s own interest.

Some time ago cheating had a simple definition, but nowadays it is more complexed and everybody has his/her own opinion, because we all have different standards. Before you want to try if grass really is greener on the other side, take a moment to think about WHAT are you doing and WHY are you doing this. It is the most important to know what cheating actually means.

We know two main types of affairs:

First is so called Romantic affair. Here are emotions the key. Both persons involved in this, feel like there is future for them.

The second on is Sexual affair where it is a purely sexual thing. It can all begin with innocent flirting and there are usually no real emotions involved.

Types of affairs

There are also some specific types of affairs:

-          Conflict-avoidance affair: Those avoiders are ussualy nice people who are afraid to be anything but nice and have fear that conflict will lead to losing control.

-          Intimacy-avoidance affair: Those couples are opposite of conflict avoiders. They are frightened of getting too close.

-          Sexual addiction affair: Those people use sex to numb inner pain and emptiness.

-          Split –self affair: Both persons in a relationship have needs to take care for others so their affairs are more serious and long-term. They are often deciding between marriage and affair partner.

-          Exit affair: This is often called »equal opportunity« affair. Person is cheating to leave the marriage.

Reasons for cheating

Not all relationships or marriages fail for the same reason. An affair is usually not the couse of a broken relationship , but a result of it. After some time we get tired of each other, but we should figure out if cheating really is the best solution for our problems. After passion of new romance has died down, people discover that it doesn’t make difference than before and they find out that this was a big mistake. Here are some reasons for cheating:  Revenge, monotonous/not enough sex, for better self-esteem, losing »connection« with partner, finding thing that people feel they’ve lost with their partner, lack of/bad communication…

Effects of cheating

Once affair has been discovered, the effects continue for a long time. Sometimes partners stay together, but cheating couse a vast array of feelings, questions and problems to arise in a relationship. In this case you have to be prepared for a hard work to sustain what you have with a loving person and trying to get over this. Being in a relationship means sustain it everytime .  It’s delicate situation, but if you want this, you can do it!

Being in a relationship takes a lot to make both partners satisfied. It is so important that we know how to communicate in a proper way.

Are you a couple who’s considering opening up your relationship, but you have anxieties and feelings of jealousy?

The most important thing is that you think carefully about what you’re afraid of and then talk about it with your partner.
It makes no sense just saying: I feel jealous, not even knowing why.

You should be more clear and think carefully, what exactly are you afraid of.
We are all afraid about changes but fears and other feelings can change. And if they do, you need to be flexible about changing.

So if you are planing an open relationship:

• Set up your arrangements and agreements

• Think about it very carefully and talk to your partner about every doubt and wish

Do you want to have a power like those women who seem to know exactly what men want from them?  Have you ever wondered why they  always have good-looking guys chasing after them?

Would you like to turn into one of those women? Then you must read this.

It is so important that you are self-confident and that you know how to take care for yourself. Maybe you won’t believe, but men really know the difference in an airbrushed photo of a model and a real woman, and they can appreciate your body just as it is. So show him that you are confident with your body too.  What men really want is that women challenges them emotionally and intellectually.

What makes learning how to attract the opposite sex so difficult is the differences in communication and thinking.

If you’re worried about not being attractive or don’t understand the power of communication don’t worry, you are in control of attraction.

If you are wondering how to attract the opposite sex, this tips can really help you.
Imagine how good you’ll feel about yourself when you have the confidence and knowledge to attract the man or woman of your dreams and keep them forever craving more!

So what are you waiting for? Go and get him/her!

How compatible are you and the person you are with? How would you know? Just because you like the same types of foods and pets does not mean that you can have a blissful, long-term relationship.

“We should know that 83% of divorces would not take place if couples asked each other the right questions.”

There are a lot of issues between partners and we just don’t know what to do to make things work better. The main reason for break ups and for arguing are very often because we don’t know how to communicate in a proper way.

Book and some tips for this main issues between couples should be a good start and usefull thing to help you improve a communication between you and your partner to make relationship last.

Writer of a book 1000 questions for couples is well known Michael Webb. (Appeared in Cosmopolitan, Oprah shows, Men’s health..)

So if you are interested in it you can find some more informations and help for you here:

Michael Webb: 1000 questions for couples

The main reason for breaking up is because fundamentally the couples were just not compatible. Because of lack of it a lot of relationships end.

This doesn’t mean that there aren’t other reasons for couples to end their relationships, but many of these can be traced back to a lack of compatibility at the beginning of the relationship.

A lot of people think that relationships come easy and that there are always happy endings, but this is a big mistake. Nowadays the relationship takes a great work and also it takes two to sustain it.

Here are two really important things:

1.  How to find out if you and your partner are really compatible?

2.  And for single; how to find a perfect partner for you and knowing how to become compatible?

There are a lot of  questions couples should ask each other, and these are so simple questions, but really important for relationship.

For example: What is your best memory from childhood?

That kind of questions may sound unimportant, but they are extremely necessary if you want happy relationship. This is the key for knowing better your partners feeling, thoughts, his/her passions..

But it is normally that we sometimes need some help for making our relationships work.

If you are interested in checking this out and make your relationship work better,  click here to find more about it (Michael Webb: 1000 questions for Couples)

It isn’t hard  for a woman to attract attention from men. You just have to wear a short skirt or something  that sexy. But is this really a kind of attraction that you want?

First of all it is the most important that you are confident and believe me, everyone around you will notice this.

There is also another thing that is good to remember: eye contact. Eyes are “telling” more than a word, try to “speak” with them.

Try to look happy and satisfied. Give a man reasons to think about you after you left. Wear soft clothes or a parfume that he can’t get out of his mind.

Believe in yourself, in your beauty. Show him that you are independent and never try to be something you are not. For men it is also very interesting that you play hard to get, but don’t be too cold.  Just let him know that he cannot take you for granted.

The key is in showing him that you are different than others. Here are some more advices to help you .

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